Here on earth we are put together in families. Our loved ones become inexpressibly precious to us. We live in intimate associations. One gets so close to mother and father, wife or husband, sons and daughters, that they literally become a part of one's very life. Then comes a day when a strange change comes over one that we love. He is transformed before our very eyes. The light of life goes out for him. He cannot speak to us nor we to him. He is gone and we are left stunned and heartbroken. An emptiness and loneliness comes into our hearts. We brokenheartedly say "That the one whom I loved is dead." It is such a cold, hopeless thing to realize. Then, out of the very depths of our despair, comes that marvelous declaration of our Lord: I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: and whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. John 11: 25,26
Then we know! We know we have not lost our loved ones who have died. We have just been separated, and as long as we live there will be an empty place left in our hearts. To some extent, the loneliness will always be there. But when we really know that one is not forever lost, it does seem to take away, a little bit, of the sorrow. There is a vast difference between precious memories, loneliness, the pain of separation, on the one hand, and a sorrow that ruins and blights our lives, on the other hand.
Hope these words are of comfort to you my friends. Please, please know that you are always on my mind and in my heart and prayers. My hands are not better yet, in fact the left one is very numb right now, so it is hard to type. But even though I can't write every day as I did before, I think of you every day. In Christian Love, Melissa
Not now, but in the coming years, it may be in the better land: we'll read the meaning of our tears, and there, some time, we'll understand.
ON THE WINGS OF DEATH AND SORROW, GOD SENDS US NEW HOPE FOR TOMORROW. AND IN HIS MERCY AND HIS GRACE, HE GIVES US STRENGTH TO BRAVELY FACE THE LONELY DAYS THAT STRETCH AHEAD. AND KNOW THAT OUR CHILD IS NOT DEAD, BUT ONLY SLEEPING AND OUT OF OUR SIGHT. AND WE'LL MEET IN THAT LAND WHERE THERE IS NO NIGHT.
Love is always bestowed as a gift -- freely, willingly, and without expectation.... We don't love to be loved; we love to love. ~ Leo Buscaglia
"Life is eternal," the good Lord said, So do not think of your loved one as dead- For death is only a stepping stone To a beautiful life we have never known, A place where God promised man he would be Eternally happy, safe and free, A wonderful land where we live anew When our journey on earth is over and through- So trust in God and doubt Him never For all who love Him live forever, And while we cannot understand Just let the Savior take your hand, For when death's angel comes to call "God is so great and we're so small"… And there is nothing you need fear For faith in God makes all things clear.
"Today shalt thou be with me in paradise" Luke 23:43
This has been the most hopeful and helpful words about life after death for me, the words Christ spoke to the penitent man who was dying that day by His side.
A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR We've seen the passing of another year. For many it's been filled with pain and tears. We've seen our loved ones in their decline. We've had to accept that they won't be fine. Some of us had to say good bye, To a CHILD, and we've all cried. But there have been times in this past year, That certain events have brought us cheer.
(even if it was a thought of our child) There are so many friends that are on the list, And I know there's names I will have missed. But better friends I could not have bought.
(than those at memory-of) And here is just a New Year's thought. If it were possible that a wish could come true, Then this is my New Year's wish for you. May the coming year be full of hope, And may we be given the strength to cope. Let courage, faith and patience abound. And let us pray that a cure will be found.
( for our broken hearts) And now at the close of another year, My friends, I wish you a Happy New Year.
Remembering You... / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)Read >>
Remembering You... / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)
Holidays are fast approaching where tinsel and lights shine bright, It’s the time for family and friends to sing out carols like 'Silent Night'. ~~^~~ Perhaps a joyous time for many celebrating the birthday of our Lord, Which is the true meaning of Christmas so why do many go out, and buy presents they can't afford? ~~^~~ Christmas parties at work and home enjoying the food and being merry, As decorations are hung with mistletoe, holly and berry. ~~^~~ For some of us it's a blue time when tears cascade so often, No matter how hard we try nothing seems to soften. ~~^~~ Whether you are alone or surrounded by loved ones, Loneliness is apparent especially missing a child. ~~^~~ No matter what religion you are and celebrate your way, Just remember this one thing for many of us it's just another day.
Remembering each of you in my prayers & in my heart. May God guide you through this holiday season. Love Melissa
I Know / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)Read >>
I Know / Melissa Smith (grieving Mom) (none)
I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.
Though some day we all have to part with those we love, they are not lost. We are always better for having loved. In this way, love transcends even death..
THANK YOU FRIEND / SELMA FLYNN BOBBO.MEMORY-OF.COM (friend)
It's the time of year when we're reminded to give thanks.
Instead of waiting until next year to be reminded,
Let's make every day one of thanksgiving;
After all, each day is a unique gift.
So, give a hug for no reason;
Say I love you, just because;
Share a smile with a stranger;
Take the time to count your blessings;
Don't take anything or anyone for granted;
And end each day with no regrets.
Thank you, my friends and family,
For sharing, caring, laughing and crying with me.
I'm truly blessed to have each and every one of you in my life
And I am thankful you have allowed me
To be a part of yours.
May you and yours have a safe and memorable Thanksgiving. Close
thinking of you / Debbie Bucknell (visitor)Read >>
thinking of you / Debbie Bucknell (visitor)
I came across your sons beautiful website while visiting my sons jamie,s site,and i am so sorry for the loss of your lovely son. My son jamie was also born in 1987 and we also lost him in 2001 at the age of fourteen. the pain of loosing our beautiful children never goes away, just something that we have to try and learn to live with. My thoughts are with you all. Close
Please don't mourn for me I'm still here, though you don't see I'm right by your side each night and day And within your heart I long to stay My body is gone but I'm always near I'm everything you feel, see or hear My spirit is free, but I'll never depart As long as you keep me alive in your heart I'll never wander out of your sight I'm the brightest star on a summer night I'll never be beyond your reach I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around And the pure white snow that blankets the ground I'm the beautiful flowers of which you're so fond The clear cool water in a quiet pond I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in spring The first warm raindrop that April will bring I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine And you'll see that the face in the moon is mine When you start thinking there's no one to love you You can talk to me through the Lord above you I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees And you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep I'm the smile you see on a baby's face Just look for me, I'm everyplace...
A message for my friend Jennifer / Amanda Hill Read >>
A message for my friend Jennifer / Amanda Hill
I think that Blake was the most happy, energetic kid I ever met! He so looked up to both of his big sisters and his parents as well! He loved you so much. Remember that :-) Love you, Amanda Close
Thoughts & Prayers To ^Blakes^ Family / Cathy ^Kennys^ Mom Read >>
Thoughts & Prayers To ^Blakes^ Family / Cathy ^Kennys^ Mom
You are in my heart & prayers... I know how very hard these dates are... My son ^Kenny^ has been in heaven for 6 years, He was my only son, My daughters only Brother. Our heart aches for you all... Close
Let Us Help Others... / Amy Patton
I feel your pain. I too have lost my brother. I am writing this tribute to commend you on your efforts to reach out to others. Sometimes it is the only thing we have to hold on to. They would be so proud of us. I would love for you to come to the candlelighting ceremony on December 3. I am speaking on behalf of the sibilings. My brother, Justin, was my only brother and sibiling. I am well aware of how families change after the death of a loved one. Especially a child and sibiling. I am in the process of writing a book called, "What Now?" This book will provide useful information to our parents on how hard the communication process is after we lose a brother/sister. It will also let our parents know how deeply we hurt, and how much we miss the way things once were. When we see our parents give up on life, it causes us to give up. We feel so much guilt simply because we did not die! The one thing we want for our parents is the impossible. All we want to do is to bring our brothers back and stop their pain, but we can't. You are not alone. I feel your pain, and unfortunately there are others who feel your pain as well. Blake would be so proud of what you are doing. Remember this, they are not gone, they are here with us every day. I know my brother watches over my children. The one gift I am blessed to have are my dreams. He comes to me in my dreams, and he is doing just fine. He has told me in my dreams that whenever I see a rainbow or a yellow butterfly that means he is thinking of us. He thinks of us quite often. Please visit my brothers website. I don't know the exact address, but it is the same site as your brothers. In Memory-Of .com His name is Justin Cornelison. If you click on the info for the candlelighting service for The Compassionate Friends for December 3, there will be a link below his photo. Please pay a tribute. God Bless you & your Family, Amy Patton Sharpsburg,Ga Close